In our early years we arrived at the hospitality business because we thought it was transient enough to allow us to travel the world, but in the interim we enjoyed wherever we were living, and enjoyed sharing our lives with friends.
We find entertaining to be a joyous high of cooking, creating, and camaraderie, all of which we throw ourselves into for better or for worse.
Of course we receive reciprocal invites and over the years through cooking together and watching other couples cook together we discover that if you really want to understand a couple's relationship, just watch them prepare a meal together!
It ‘s a subtle dance of knowing each other’s space, knowing when to yield or hold back, knowing the limits of their and one's own oven temperature of tolerance.
Understanding what really matters to someone and what is frivolous is important, and knowing that the banter doesn’t really matter is most important. What matters is the subtext beyond—beyond the spoken, the quips, the defenses.
The summation of what works and why is understanding the other person’s territory and needs. It too is reciprocal—an invitation to want to get along, but it has to be accepted in order for the party to begin.
A relationship means literally that: something in relation to another something. This means a relationship isn't static. It is in constant motion and like dance, it has many variations.
Try checking out this recipe and just say to your mate, Let’s dance!
Related blog published after Let's Dance: https://www.thechefandthedish.com/post/2016/05/18/the-benefits-of-cooking-together
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Bacon & Cheddar Puff Hors d'oeuvres
Pate a chou pastry*
1/2 lb. bacon
1/2 lb. cream cheese
1 lb. Vermont sharp cheddar cheese, shredded
1/8 tsp. cayenne pepper or to taste
Sauté bacon until crisp. Drain, finely dice, and reserve.
Puree cheeses in a food processor.
Add bacon and pepper to taste, and place mixture into a pastry bag for piping into pate a chou pastry puffs.
Notes: Filling can be made ahead and frozen. Thaw and reheat before serving.
Can also be used as a simple spread.
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